How much we actually know about love, what we can really expect from it, are we ready to open ourselves to new experiences and when is the right time for a new partner, our expert associate discovers The sublime feeling that makes us better people is called love and it is one of life's greatest values. Although it rests on the basic need of human beings to belong, what is necessary for love is the autonomy of personality. A psychologically independent, mature personality is able to build a relationship with another person that brings long-term satisfaction. She is capable of giving love, but also of recognizing people who are ready to build such a reciprocal relationship with her.
ADJUST YOUR EXPECTATIONS
The experiences we carry from our primary family, our previous emotional connection, but also the environment we live in, can impose different expectations and suggest often unrealistic, idealized ideas about love. These models greatly influence the shaping of our true love and affair scenario. As far as our expectations are concerned with the most sublime human feeling, studies show that we are generally inclined to pay more attention to disappointments. We take experiences that exceeded our expectations for granted. When what we expect doesn’t happen, we feel worse than we thought it would be. If you are not as happy in love as you hoped, you probably expected too much. BE OPEN TO LOVE Love is not reserved for a certain period of time and it can always happen to us. It is a human need for emotional attachment that is significant throughout life. Allegedly choosing a life without love and believing that it involves sacrificing liberty and our own needs is just another rationalization. When we love, the process of adjustment is the process of love itself. It is more likely that different aspects of love are relatively more significant at different stages of life. Sometimes we have passion, other times intimacy, and sometimes commitment, depending on the context of other life's tasks and roles in our lives.
WHAT IS LOVE
Openness to love implies a sincere attitude towards yourself and your needs. In order to achieve this, it is necessary for us to know ourselves. What does that really mean? If we are able to recognize our own feelings, control them and use them to move us in the right direction, we create a quality basis to empathize with and to establish appropriate relationships. Love is in many ways the meaning of our lives. The problems seem to start when we are convinced that this is the only meaning. The desperate need for love is often based on the fear of loneliness. These emotions can greatly block our ability to experience love. HOW TO DEVELOP LOVE SKILL What is more important to you: to love or to be loved? We are often convinced that it is easy for us to love, and that the main problem is to find the right person to return our feelings. And most importantly, as a solution to the problem, we set the goal of becoming a person worthy of love. We try to achieve our value in different ways. Most often, these are popularity, sex appeal, social power ... which should increase our chances for an emotional connection to occur. However, From argued that love is a skill, a skill associated with our ability to love. Unconditional acceptance of ourselves, with all our faults and virtues, learning about our own expectations, goals and needs, are the basis of our willingness to make love happen. Accepting ourselves allows us to accept others as well. In fact, loving another person means being willing to actively invest in interpersonal relationships, to truly get to know her, and to meet her needs. Love is the ability to give and emotionally invest without seeking anything in return. This is the basis from which love and affair develop. However, that is not enough.
WHAT NEEDS TO BECOME MAKE IT WORK
For a relationship to truly thrive and develop, it needs reciprocity, a need to be reciprocated, and that is not just up to us. Freud believed that a mentally healthy person was characterized by two key characteristics, the ability to work and the ability to love. The capacity for love is acquired as one grows and matures in relationships with loved ones. But this is not the end. We have been changing for years, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. As a person changes throughout his life, so does the capacity for love to continue to develop during new life stages. Love is a unique experience, but as with life, we cannot ask it for a guarantee that it will last forever. In reality, this doesn't really happen that often. A mature, autonomous personality is the one who has for the most part developed her capacity for love, she is her desire, but not a condition of life and survival.
By: SANJA STANIC, Psychologist & Psychotherapist, By: Ksenija Konic for Story magazine
love # expectations # connection # emotional connection # feelings
Making the right decision is often a problem for most people, and how should we deal with this dilemma, but also find appropriate solutions, explains our expert associate The burden of decision is essentially the most dramatic in life situations that people consider extremely important. The meaning of each decision is to achieve a certain goal or to solve a problem. Making a decision means taking control of your own life and becoming a responsible person. However, freedom of choice has its price, which is more likely to make us repent after the election. Research shows that 75 percent of people repent of something they did not do. It seems easier to deal with the negative consequences of what has been done than the opportunities we have missed because we have not done something. There are various factors at play here. In general, we have a number of mechanisms at our disposal that allow us to cope with negative events, but when it comes to missed opportunities, the situation is somewhat more complicated. The current discontent makes people overestimate the lost chances, while underestimating the negative consequences of a missed choice. When you think about it this way, it seems that everything would be easier and better if you had decided otherwise, but probably that assumption is fundamentally wrong. Each of us experienced that the goal he had achieved did not bring him the satisfaction he expected. For starters, it's helpful to give up wanting to change your own past. Why is it sometimes difficult to make a decision? Everyone sometimes hesitates, but paralyzing indecision is often linked to what we tell ourselves about the decision we need to make. For example: I have to make the right decision or it is terrible to make the wrong decision. If I am wrong, I am worthless and doomed to fail! This mindset does not put us in the best position to make the right decision. In addition, the question is how useful it is to think that there is a right decision when each solution carries both chances and potential risks. However, mature and balanced decision-making precludes impulsivity because afterwards we are unable to tolerate the inconvenience that the decision-making process entails. Immediate decisions made on the boom, as well as delaying them, generally complicate the situation, make decision-making difficult and increase the likelihood that we will repent.
How do you repent at MINIMUM? Looking at ourselves from the angle of achievement, we can say that in many ways we are the result of all the decisions we have made so far. Self-confidence makes it easy to make decisions. When we perceive ourselves as a person who is able to cope with life's challenges, make a decision and accept the opportunity to make a mistake, we are well on our way to being more successful, emotionally stable, but also physically healthy. What helps us be more confident is our decision-making skills. What is useful to know to minimize the likelihood of a wrong choice? Before collecting data, also determine alternative courses of action. People are often unaware of all the possibilities at play, so they psychologically exaggerate the significance and severity of the dilemma that presses them. Write down the reasons for and against the procedure. This will make the alternatives much clearer to you. Think about who will be influenced by your decision. Involve other people in the process, especially if it will affect their lives. Assess the risk before applying the selected alternative. Think about what can go wrong and what you can do to minimize that risk. Perform a mental test - imagine what the outcomes of the decision will be. Depending on whether you are looking for a lot or are satisfying small, the effects of the goals you have achieved may be somewhat different. People with maximalist demands may achieve more, but they are also more prone to remorse, that is, thinking about options they missed, then worry, pessimism, and depression. Make a plan of action - Refine your decision with respect to timelines. Identify small rewards that will motivate you to persevere and write everything down. Once you've made your decision, commit to the action plan and forget the question: What if ...? But is this enough? Let us not forget that humans are not just rational beings. Even when we follow all the rules of decision, it is not excluded that we will repent and reconsider afterwards.
Research and ingenious psychological experiments have shed light on another side of the complex problem of decision-making. Specifically, the decision making of respondents who used subconscious strategies significantly reduced remorse. When people are in a decision-making situation, after being exposed to the options given the task of engaging in strenuous mental activity (such as solving anagrams), they are able to make better decisions than those who made decisions by considering the pros and cons. This effect was explained by the theory of subconscious thinking, which points out that our subconscious manages much better when it comes to complex decisions. Our mind has limited ability to handle a wealth of data at the same time and is able to overlook the broader picture of the problem we are facing. HOW TO SPECIFY A SUBSCRIBE TO DECIDE THE DECISION MAKING PROBLEM? We first become acquainted with the elements necessary to make a decision, then we engage our attention with strenuous mental activity such as solving anagrams, and let the subconscious mind work for us. We are complicated and our actions are influenced by a number of factors. Among other things, how we currently feel, how we perceive ourselves, and how others see us. In addition, remorse is a healthy emotion because it allows us to spot, accept and repair problems that inevitably happen to us throughout our lives. Taking responsibility, repenting of your mistake, and forgiving yourself are the first steps we can take to enrich our lives with experience and wisdom.
By: SANJA STANIC, Psychologist & Psychotherapist, By: Ksenija Konic for Story magazine
remorse # decisions # reconsideration # what if # responsibility
How are members of the stronger sex expressing their feelings and how their partners do it and why there are stereotypes about how boys should not cry and girls be aggressive, explains our expert associate Although women are thought to be more emotional than men, the FIFA World Cup strongly challenges such a stereotype. In this example, we can see how strong the emotions of the male are, turbulent and to what extent their range is amazingly large. Namely, it is not only anger and aggression that fosters a competitive spirit, but also expressed sadness, hurt, hopelessness, disappointment, dissatisfaction, which in some cases is accompanied by the right river of tears. DIFFERENCES BETWEEN HIM AND HIM However, we can't ignore the stereotypes we grow up with, whether it's men or women. They are important because they shape the way data is interpreted from reality. It is quite certain that the range of perceived emotions in the stronger sex over the course of the Mundial did not disturb the image of a man who does not show emotions by considering them rather unimportant and a woman who is sensitive, caring and sensitive. Why is that so? Acquisition of differences in both genders seems to be exaggerated, although they are certain to exist. Testosterone dominance is thought to make a man develop aggressive tendencies. The difference in the development of brain structures indicates that women have greater verbal capacities to express emotions, while men develop areas in charge of spatial and mechanical relations. However, the fact is that the differences in experiencing and expressing emotions within a group are large. There are individuals who express emotions but also members of the more beautiful sex who do not respond in this way. These polarities are greater than the absolute differences between men and women. Biological dispositions are important and in psychology they relate to a person's temperament. The old Hippocratic division into choleric (those who violently express overwhelmingly unpleasant feelings), melancholy (who long and strongly feel the emotion of sadness), sanguine (prone to optimistic views and pleasant emotions) and phlegmatic (persons with superficial, short-lived and weak emotions), shows human innate preferences that can be observed in everyday situations. However, we are fully aware that emotional expression is not easily simplified. Differences in the expression of the severity of feelings are culturally conditioned, which makes men more likely to conceal surprise and fear, while women tend to hide disgust, contempt and anger.
IT IS ALL IN NATURE Biology is only the basis through which the influence of the immediate and wider social environment is refracted, as well as the model of relationship that is present in the family. Clearly, these social influences shape the way emotions are expressed. Adults often consider a boy a weakness when he expresses the emotion of sadness (crying like a girl!), And condemns a girl for acting aggressively. Often, such emotions are accompanied by impulsive behavior and a tendency toward substances that suppress feelings. Alcohol, drugs and excessive, aggressive behavior are often in the function of running away from depression. Girls, when angry and angry, cry. They turn a socially unacceptable emotion into one that can provide any kind of social support. EMOTION EMOTIONS The social environment does not favor this kind of behavior. Men are less likely and women are more tolerant of expressing feelings. However, both, commensurate with social tolerance, have the same problem when they neglect, suppress and negate their own emotions. It is important for them to know that in addition to the biological disposition that relates to their gender, the more learned pattern of emotional expression we adopt in the family and social environment is far more important. And what is learned can be changed and suffering need not be fate. The difference in the expression of feelings, when it comes to sex, is necessary in seduction. Attraction, which is the basis of emotional connections, finds its expression in complex behaviors that let the other party know that you like it. This synchronization of emotional behaviors would be unnecessary if there were no difference between men and women.
By: SANJA STANIC, Psychologist & Psychotherapist, By: Ksenija Konic for Story magazine
men # women # emotions # differences # stereotypes
Self-confidence is one of the basic prerequisites for a happy and fulfilling life, psychologists claim. The child who gets it in the primary family will be easier to handle as they grow up with problems and temptations and lead a happier life. Where, however, is the limit, or to what extent, to '' build up '' children's confidence without creating an egocentric, overambitious and non-empathetic personality? - Although self-confidence sometimes implies different phenomena, it is considered that a self-confident person is distinguished by courage and security in social situations, persistence and self-belief, ability to overcome challenges and obstacles in life. A self-confident person accepts himself and others as someone with virtues and faults, and failures and successes as an integral part of life - psychologist and psychotherapist Sanja Stanic explains to readers of "Herbs and Health": Compliments on the scale Modern psycholiterature recommends constant affirmation and praise in order to build confidence. Is this the way that guarantees success, explains our interlocutor: - Although based on a range of healthy emotions, self-esteem is first and foremost an attitude that is built and adopted by upbringing and learning. Mastering key life skills, such as clearly expressing one's own needs while respecting others or managing oneself in achieving essential life goals, is difficult to imagine without confidence.
Giving compliments to children and for the smallest success or desirable behavior, praise for giftedness, skill and intelligence often acts as a tempting, accessible means of parenting. It's important to avoid criticism and focus at least on minimal successes. Although this strategy seems logical, it is certain that the human psyche is much more complex and that this educational strategy does not automatically lead to building a confident personality. On the contrary, it can have drastically undesirable effects. What happens when you tell your children that they are very smart if, for example, they successfully complete a task? - Research has shown that we can expect that children who are told they are smart are likely to avoid challenges and more difficult tasks. In addition, when faced with more demanding and difficult tasks, praised children will enjoy less and will tend to give up faster. In the end, excessive praise gives counterproductive results, because overly praised children underachieve when it comes to expected success - explains Sanja Stanic.
Demolition of motivation In addition to praising intelligence and talent, they stimulate, encourage and arouse pleasant feelings, but they also have negative effects on motivation. Children conclude that intelligence is sufficient and that they do not have to strive to achieve good results, which in reality leads to failure. And failure is again, disastrous for motivation. By praising a child's traits, talents, or abilities, parents and educators encourage fear of failure and conditional acceptance of themselves, which can have negative consequences on character development. The question that is worth considering is whether the abuse of these compliments led to an increase in the number of narcissistic personalities, personalities who are only seemingly sure of themselves. However, it would be wrong to consider any praise as bad. Healthy encouragement If it's bad to praise children's traits, what incentive strategy is effective? Our interviewee explains: - There is good praise for children's effort and dedication, which leads to a renewed effort and the development of perseverance and perseverance. These personality traits increase the ability to succeed and develop children's confidence. Compliments of '' you just tried your best '' encourage the courage of the child to tackle the challenges of new learning and eliminate the fear of failure.
The eventual failure of a child is understood, not as an indicator of incapacity, but as a consequence of insufficient effort and effort, which builds a sense of strength to overcome difficulties - says Sanja Stanic. According to her recommendation, praise your child's hard work, perseverance, dedication, concentration, organizational skills each time he or she succeeds. When using '' healthy '' compliments, be as specific as possible. Properly Tell your child, '' You did a great job doing math today '' which is much more effective than saying, '' You do great math, '' advises Sanja Stanic. Encourage further encouragement by talking about ways your child has overcome obstacles or what made it easier for them to overcome.
From the corner of the school A confident kid is much easier to complete tasks and fit in with peers because he is not afraid of failure. On the other hand, children who cannot boast of this trait respond in two ways - either by retreating and avoiding conflicts or by aggressively invading others, trying to 'hide' their vulnerability, says teacher Marija Jovanovic. - Praise is affirmative only when it is deserved, when there is a commitment behind it. According to teacher Jelena Markovic, building a child's self-esteem should be done in collaboration with parents, since it is best for the child to receive identical motivations at home and at school.
Author: SANJA STANIC, Psychologist & Psychotherapist, Prepared by: J. Jovanovic for Herbs & Health, News confidence # praise # criticism # effort # incentive
To what extent is it possible for us to change our character, whether it is desirable that we expect a loved one to be guided by our standards and whether it is done more often by members of the gentler or stronger sex, reveals our expert associate In the age of individualism in which we live, personal needs are paramount. Among them is partnership, as a way to satisfy one of life's basic desires for belonging, closeness and love. The result may be a request for a partner to adapt to our needs, without the willingness to change because of him. The idea of changing some of our partner's properties to make our relationship better and more successful is very appealing, but in the long run, such efforts are detrimental to the relationship. Adults do not change significantly because someone else, not even a loved one, requires it. In order for a desired change to occur, it is necessary that one voluntarily wants to change. The belief that love has the power to change a loved one is in fairy tales. Everyone has heard of the princess's kiss that transforms a frog into a prince, a beauty and a beast, a Thorn Rose ... Unrealistic expectations can be fueled by idealized models offered by the modern entertainment industry and consumer culture. Such beliefs can greatly influence a woman to feel that she shows love, attachment, and commitment to a partner and relationship through the effort and commitment to change a loved one. If a firm belief that we know what is best for a partner is accompanied by a lack of communication skills, it can result in quite aggressive requests to change some traits, habits and behavior. The result is most often the opposite of what is desired. If you criticize, complain about, or blame, a partner's behavior, the chances of him or her changing behavior become less and less. Even if the desired transfiguration is achieved, it lasts for a short time and threatens the connection in the long run. It often happens that the effects of change are not what you hoped for, which further complicates the relationship.
WOMEN NEED MORE TO CHANGE A PARTNER?
The role of women in male culture is always complex. In the past, it was realized in one way, in another in modern society. Women identified their goals with those of their fathers, sons and husbands. Their role is still often assessed today through the function of supporting a partner to succeed. You have certainly heard that behind every successful man is a successful woman, then the metaphor that the man is the head and the woman the neck on which that head stands. The historical role of women implies a tendency to use power indirectly, most often by manipulation because their direct expression of influence was prevented. Although even today, more beautiful women are reluctant to relinquish this type of power, men rightly no longer want that kind of female influence. Historical reasons cannot justify manipulation. Men who desire the traditional role of woman ignore that aspect that is not fundamentally suited to them.
FROM THE MALE ANGLE
Men also need to change the traits of the woman they are dating, especially those who see the relationship as a matter of power and dominance that naturally belongs to them. Unlike women, they impose their needs more directly and require some behavior from their partners. Traditional patterns of domination may be appealing to some men, but more and more are introducing that such power is an illusion that restrains them. Exerting one's own superiority causes resentment in the partner, withdrawal and destroys closeness, and the relationship becomes a source of deep dissatisfaction and loneliness. Such a man often thinks that his marriage is long overdue, despite the fact that everything is subordinate to his needs. He does not perceive his own responsibility for the state of the community, so he seeks closeness elsewhere, which often leads to fraud.
WHAT IS USEFUL TO KNOW?
A common way to deal with large and accumulated problems is to require the partner to make some concessions and compromises. Close relationships imply a great influence that the partners have on each other and the more equal that influence, the more successful the relationship. However, when dissatisfaction is directed at different aspects of the partner's personality, if the demands for change are frequent and affect multiple areas of functioning, it will be more a lack of closeness and love. This is cause for concern, because if there is no community and affection, the basis of a healthy relationship is shaken, and change is necessary. Think of your partner as a real person, not as a project that you will transform with your own influence and life together. Assess whether you can accept his positive traits and the ones you like less, because if your partner is not a person you can share life with now, it is unlikely to become one in the future.
Author: SANJA STANIC, Psychologist & Psychotherapist, By: Ksenija Konic for Story magazine
changing partners # gentler sex # stronger sex # compromise # agreement
Are socializing at work desirable and possible, as far as collegiality goes, and where friendship begins and how to set boundaries, explains our expert associate Statistics say we spend more time at work than we do with family and friends, and as many as 45 percent of employees take work home, or work when the time is long overdue. Who we will work with in the office is not a matter of our choice, but it is imposed on us to share the work space with people we might never otherwise connect with in other circumstances. On the other hand, research shows that a lot of friendships are made at work, make love relationships, make lifelong contacts. How, then, to separate private and business and is it only desirable or mandatory? Do workplace friendships make it difficult for us to function and where to set boundaries? How far does collegiality go? When a friendship begins, is it at all realistic and can it be right because it evolved with someone of our choice just because we share a profession? It is very difficult to give precise answers and guidelines.
Whether, how much and how privately weaned from the business depends most on the organizational structure and size of the institution or firm. You cannot expect different activities to work the same, and even in firms where people are engaged in identical jobs, relationships vary significantly. It all depends on whether it is a small or a large company, what age and gender they are employed, what kind of people, characters, their communication skills, social and emotional intelligence. Many factors affect the work atmosphere and how the collective will function, most of all the people who make it, that is, the characteristics of their personalities. Imagine a job that requires concentration and peace of mind and your colleague never stops talking on the phone. It annoys, brings nervousness and conflict. Someone who is too open-minded and constantly expresses private concerns to colleagues also disrupts the work atmosphere. Much of this also depends on the nature of the business and the business policy of the firm. You cannot expect, for example, that your staff will function the same as professors in the school. In the first case, the description and organization of work allow for a more flexible relationship, while at school, everyone has their own schedule of lessons and only short breaks for contact.
So relationships in the collective are very colorful and it is difficult to predict how they will develop. Mixing business and private always brings problems, and the decline in productivity, the creation of clicks and clans, the possibility of poor interpersonal relationships. Creating an intimate, friendly relationship between colleagues can give other employees a sense of inequality. It is precisely because of such things that there is a need, and in many firms, the rule is not to mix work and pleasure.
HOW TO SET BORDERS
The answer is not simple, but it would be something like this - boundaries are set according to personal and work needs and must be flexible! In practice, this means that the relationship with colleagues does not exceed the limit of intimacy, that is, not to talk too much about personal problems, but also not to go beyond the usual behavior. So you shouldn't burden your coworkers with your problems, but you can complain about them if you find it difficult. On the other hand, a certain amount of support for trust and friendliness must exist, collegiality goes without saying. This means that you are available to people, that they can count on you and trust you. It's important to know that having a good relationship with your colleagues doesn't have to be friendly, which doesn't mean you don't love them and they don't matter to you.
THE LUGS OF FRIENDSHIP AT A JOB
People at work have a more rigid social mask, that is, they create a more desirable picture of themselves. We tend to function completely differently in certain segments of our lives, so at the same time, an associate of cheerful nature and good cheer can be an unhappy and neglected wife at the same time. We all want some place where we are the best, so if it can't be a house, we'll try at work and vice versa. People like to be accepted by others, it's in their nature. On the other hand, some of us at all costs want to present a more beautiful picture of themselves and are very successful in doing so. That's why friendships at work are a double edged sword. They can pretty much disrupt the work atmosphere, especially if we forgive a friend for business mistakes and look at him through the fingers, but also cause great disappointments. Our friend is only the person with whom we are able to organize socializing outside of business hours. Only when such situations occur can colleagues be called friends. But we need to have much tighter boundaries with them at work than with others.
It is harder for women Some firms insist on humanizing relationships, while others have strict rules to separate privately and business-wise. Exaggeration in any direction is not good, and the best solutions are always somewhere in the middle. Women are more ambitious and, regardless of their position, the work they do and the collective in which they work, enter relationships more openly. Research also shows that they tend to tolerate conflicts with colleagues, poor interpersonal relationships, so any conflict, and sometimes even a misunderstanding, gives them additional stress. They are more likely to want social acceptance, which hinders their ability to privately separate from business.
Author: SANJA STANIC, Psychologist & Psychotherapist, By: Ksenija Konic for Story magazine
job # private # borders # stress
As in every branch of medicine, medicines for various problems, disorders and diseases are used in psychiatry. Generally speaking, medicines for the treatment of psychiatric illness are: 1. antidepressants (medicines for the treatment of depressive disorders) 2. sedatives and hypnotics (medicines for the treatment of anxiety disorders) 3. Antipsychotics (for the treatment of psychotic disorders) 4. Mood stabilizers (for the treatment of mood disorders) ANTIDEPRESSIVE: it is a group of medicines that acts on mood disorders, ie. depressive disorders. There are several subtypes of these drugs, which essentially act in a similar way, with slight differences at the level of neurotransmitters (serotrotin, noradrenaline, dopamine). Depending on the stage and severity of the disease, different types of these drugs are used. There are older medicines, which are still used in certain cases, but today more commonly used are modern antidepressants (SSRIs, SNRIs, SARIs…), which have few side effects and provide a good quality of life as they are taken. There are often fears and questions about whether these drugs are addictive, what is the answer to not causing them. They are taken for a longer period of time (in the first episode one year, and then longer, sometimes all of life, if severe, endogenous depression is involved). Customers should be made aware of this in order to avoid doubts and so-called the "noceb" effect, the opposite of a placebo, when we are convinced that a medicine will not be used and used by us. Symptoms that affect them are mood disorders, sleep disorders, moods, appetites, urges ... Therefore, each client should be allocated as much time as possible to explain how these drugs work, for how long, what are the possible side effects, and the like.
SEDATIVES AND HYPNOTICS: it is a group of medicines that acts on a wide range of disorders, where it is necessary to calm the client when he is very upset, tense, has problems with sleep, psychomotor restlessness and the like. The most famous of them are the so-called. Benzodiazepines, which act on a wide range of symptoms, act quickly, but there is a high possibility of causing dependence and increasing tolerance if taken uncritically and without the supervision of a physician. They are among the most prescribed drugs in general medicine as well as in psychiatry. The most famous are bensedine, lorazepam, xalol, bromazepam.As in every branch of medicine, medicines for various problems, disorders and diseases are used in psychiatry. Generally speaking, medicines for the treatment of psychiatric illness are: 1. antidepressants (medicines for the treatment of depressive disorders) 2. sedatives and hypnotics (medicines for the treatment of anxiety disorders) 3. Antipsychotics (for the treatment of psychotic disorders) 4. Mood stabilizers (for the treatment of mood disorders) ANTIDEPRESSIVE: it is a group of medicines that acts on mood disorders, ie. depressive disorders. There are several subtypes of these drugs, which essentially act in a similar way, with slight differences at the level of neurotransmitters (serotrotin, noradrenaline, dopamine). Depending on the stage and severity of the disease, different types of these drugs are used. There are older medicines, which are still used in certain cases, but today more commonly used are modern antidepressants (SSRIs, SNRIs, SARIs…), which have few side effects and provide a good quality of life as they are taken. There are often fears and questions about whether these drugs are addictive, what is the answer to not causing them. They are taken for a longer period of time (in the first episode one year, and then longer, sometimes all of life, if severe, endogenous depression is involved). Customers should be made aware of this in order to avoid doubts and so-called the "noceb" effect, the opposite of a placebo, when we are convinced that a medicine will not be used and used by us. Symptoms that affect them are mood disorders, sleep disorders, moods, appetites, urges ... Therefore, each client should be allocated as much time as possible to explain how these drugs work, for how long, what are the possible side effects, and the like.
SEDATIVES AND HYPNOTICS: it is a group of medicines that acts on a wide range of disorders, where it is necessary to calm the client when he is very upset, tense, has problems with sleep, psychomotor restlessness and the like. The most famous of them are the so-called. Benzodiazepines, which act on a wide range of symptoms, act quickly, but there is a high possibility of causing dependence and increasing tolerance if taken uncritically and without the supervision of a physician. They are among the most prescribed drugs in general medicine as well as in psychiatry. The most famous are bensedine, lorazepam, xalol, bromazepam.
Some of them cause sedation, while others do not. They are used in the treatment of various anxiety disorders, such as panic disorders, social phobia, specific phobias, generalized anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, as well as in other disorders in which anxiety, anxiety, anxiety, tension, psychomotor disorder, psychomotor disorder, psychomotor disorder ...) They are very effective, but can also be abused, so they need to be taken under the supervision of a doctor for a maximum of one month, and then they must be phased out. There are exceptions, when taken longer, such as with generalized anxiety disorders, panic disorders, psychoses and the like. As they must be gradually excluded, so must they be gradually introduced into therapy, in order for the organism to gradually adapt to their effect. The most serious side effect of these drugs is the so-called abstinence syndrome due to sudden exclusion, in the form of anxiety, restlessness, nervousness, sweating, disorders of consciousness and the like. It is also very dangerous if used in combination with alcohol, psychoactive substances, as they can have a cumulative effect on the central nervous system, which can cause disturbed consciousness, respiratory distress, coma, and can lead to death.
ANTIPSYCHOTICS: a group of medicines used to treat psychotic disorders (schizophrenia, transient psychotic disorders, manic phases of bipolar disorder, manic disorders, psychotic phases in personality disorders, etc.). The first effective drugs in the field of psychotic disorders were discovered in the 1950s, and until then, various alternative methods (rotating stool, insulin coma, artificial hibernation) were used, which has left to this day fear and stigma in the society associated with the treatment of these diseases. . The symptoms they are affected by are hallucinations, crazy ideas, agitation, agitation, sleep disorders, nervousness, tension ... There are various groups of these medicines, which are divided into first and second generation antipsiotics, depending on when they are made and what effect they have. There is also a division into typical and atypical antipsychotics, typical are old types of drugs, which have a very rapid effect on psychomotor agitation, agitation, aggression, and are used at the beginning of treatment, when patients have these symptoms, often in the form of injections. When that first phase of the disease passes, and the clients become a bit calmer, they move on to the per os forms, ie tablets. Then atypical antipsychotics, which are more modern and easier to tolerate, also provide a better quality of life. Like all medicines, these have various side effects, so they must be taken under the strict supervision of a psychiatrist. The most serious side effect of old antipsychotics is the so-called. malignant neuroleptic syndrome, which is life-threatening and requires treatment in intensive care units. Modern antipsychotics are safer, but on the other hand they cause an increase in fat and sugar in the blood, affecting cardiac activity, so that the above parameters in the blood must be regularly controlled, as well as hygienic and dietary treatment during treatment and regular physical activity. But thanks to these medicines, even the most serious psychiatric illnesses can be successfully treated and such clients can have a successful and quality life.
DISABILITY STABILIZERS: As the name implies, these are medicines used to stabilize mood in mood disorders, such as bipolar affective disorder, cyclothymia, which alternate between episodes of depression and episodes of mania. It is very strenuous and difficult to bear, and stabilizers are used to keep clients in a stable mood and therefore more functional. The most famous stabilizer is Lithium, which is very effective in treating these disorders, although it began to be used many years ago and is still one of the gold standards for the treatment of bipolar affective disorder. Due to side effects, it must be gradually introduced into therapy, and blood levels measured once a week, so it must be taken under the supervision of a psychiatrist. Other drugs used are so-called. anti-epileptics, ie. anti-epileptic drugs that are also effective for treating mood disorders (Valproic acid, Carbamazepine, Lamotrigine, Gamapentin ...) It is very important to take care of mental health, not to be ashamed and afraid to turn to experts, who will help us feel better and function better in our daily lives. Medication is not always necessary, sometimes talk, counseling and psychotherapy are sufficient, but in some cases it is inevitable to take pharmacotherapy without prejudice and stigmatization.
Author: Dr TATJANA VLAŠKOVIĆ JOVIĆEVIĆ, spec. psychiatrists and psychotherapists
mood stabilizers # antidepressants # antipsychotics # hypnotics # sedatives
It seems to me that it often happens that we get a stress siren when someone close to us is hurt, upset, sick or something. We direct all resources towards helping that person, whether it is our child, partner, mother, father, friend, distant relative, colleague or neighbor. In those moments, our brain runs at three hundred an hour and comes up with different solutions that person needs to apply to solve what is bothering him. So the mother should buy exactly the medicine we drank when our head ached because it helped us a lot, the child should stop socializing with Peter from the other ward because there is always some trouble when they go out of school together, the neighbor should making muffins exactly according to our recipe, which has been perfected, a colleague should have the car taken to a repair shop by our car mechanic who has been checked and not pay expensive repairs every month for some unverified and so on and so forth ... And what happens next in such situations? When they listen to us, we are happy because we feel useful, even if the result of our advice turns out to be good, then our close person is happy too and it is a full blow. Then what is the problem? The problem is they don't listen to us most often. Then often we get hurt or angry because of the thoughts we have "She doesn't listen to me again," "How can she not listen to me?", "What did I even try?", "What a fool I am to be upset at all" and / or the like. But there is something worse, which is that it happens again and again, that is, when our partner complains that the boss at work is impossible, we are alarmed again and the same whirlwind begins again, first the solutions we offer, and then when the solutions are not taken into account generally, our thoughts trigger negative emotions. How do you resist these vicious circles?
It seems a completely illogical sequence of events, we just wanted to help and how then it turns out that in addition to being close to us annoyed at once, so are we. It's like something is missing us here ... NEED! Yes, we missed the need. Let's see - what is the need? Need denotes the motives and values of each individual, what drives him to action, and arises in a situation when we lack something (that is, we need it). What was the child's need when complaining about Peter from the other two? Maybe it needed understanding (someone just listened to and understood it) or a need to share (wanted to tell something that happened to him during the day) or maybe they needed attention (wanted to give him a few minutes so he maybe a little exaggerated what Peter did) or there was some other need ... And what did we do? They immediately decided that the child was looking for a solution to his problem, which can happen sometimes, but it is certainly not hidden behind every "Hey, imagine what happened to me today?" It is important to listen to the needs of our loved ones, but in order not to deal with enigmatics it is easier to ask them what their needs are. E.g. when parents start complaining about health problems, we can ask them "how can I help you", "what would you like?" and then if they say they would like some help then we can come up with a solution and if only they need to talk about it, we can be there for them to listen to. In addition to understanding the needs of other people, it is even more important to know your own needs. In this example worse when we were upset because no one listened to us and we put time and effort into finding a solution for them, our need was the need for respect or maybe the need for respect and when it was not satisfied then it was with our negative thoughts also caused some unpleasant feeling. Think about your needs and the right ways to meet them. Check out the needs of the people around you and know that it's often enough to just be there.
Author: MARTINA HEJI, Master Psychologist, Systemic Family Psychotherapist under supervision
need for respect # need for understanding # need for attention # need for appreciation # need for sharing
Happiness days are associated with happiness, but psychologist Sanja Stanic says it is not a given. So she advises how to feel fulfilled and satisfied. There is a festive atmosphere in the air. No one is indifferent to the excitement and hustle that the holidays bring. Entering a new life cycle, ending old ones, starting new businesses and awakening hope are related to different rituals of celebrating the New Year and Christmas.
Gathering a family, fostering togetherness through giving and caring for others is often a reason to rethink and make a living balance. Festive enthusiasm that heightens our expectations and makes us sensitive to the reality in which we encounter daily frustrations, lack of money, loneliness, impatience, petty and big conflicts with others.
This disharmony is often catastrophic, and our strengths to deal with difficulties are weak or none at all. Holidays, therefore, are a trigger for many people for feelings of loneliness, sadness, depression, apathy and nervousness. Look at your needs Indeed, even though the holidays are synonymous with the joy that comes from spending time resting and relaxing with loved ones, many exhaust themselves with imposed and excessive commitments, and neglect what really matters in those moments. In addition to kindness, attention, support and understanding for family and friends, it is important to look at your needs, look for what pleases us, actively create your time.
Relationship with others is the most stable source of life's happiness and contentment, and activity brings the pleasure of creating one's life. Create happiness for yourself Think about what is important for you to make the courageous pursuit of your values. Remember what brought you pleasure, to motivate yourself to reach for new experiences.
Therefore, holidays will not in themselves bring you joy, pleasure and enjoyment, but your intention to create them in a way that will bring you lasting well-being and awaken the joy of living. In the process, it is less important whether you will avoid all the unpleasant emotions, and more whether you will do what pleases you and what pleases the important people in your life.
Author: SANJA STANIC, psychologist & psychotherapist, Edited by: Jasmina Antonijevic Milosevic for Glossy magazine
holidays # joy # happiness # vacation # family
How do I survive a meeting on a Friday? "" What should I do if I lose my job? "" What if I drop the exam? " "What if my partner leaves me?" "What if I'm late for a kid's event/work/ceremony or something?" Nowadays, when it comes to living very fast, it is not uncommon for these or similar and perhaps some other concerns to be thrown at your head. What exactly are these concerns? It is nothing but our thoughts, which anticipate some danger that may or may not happen. When we worry longer, most often after the anticipated danger, the negative outcomes of such a situation begin. And in those moments, such worries can become burdensome.
On the other hand, if we don't worry, does that mean that it doesn't even matter to us? Caring has a protective function, which is to prepare us for the events ahead. Based on this, it can be concluded that then the care is good and that the more we worry, the more prepared we will be for what is to come. But is that right? When we look at the meanings of Concern in the vocabulary, we find that we can attach two meanings to it: 1) Anxiety, or a sense of anxiety, and 2) Diligence and enterprisingness. Perhaps this helps us to distinguish when it is good for us to care and when it is better not to worry. How to do it? We can evaluate whether that particular concern is our friend or our enemy. Concern - "How will I survive Friday's meeting?" In order to evaluate what kind of care it is, we need to have more details. What kind of a meeting does the “talk” take care of, is it very relevant, who will be there, what is our role, what is expected of us. Let's think about whether we can do something to prepare for that meeting to increase the likelihood that the outcome will be positive. This kind of concern is like diligence, even if we decide to take action, for example. let's prepare a presentation for that meeting so we don't have to memorize and talk all over our heads but do it with slides - which brings us to the Enterprising of the above mentioned meaning. Such care can be friendly.
On the other hand, the same concern - "How will I survive a Friday meeting?" can also be hostile. How? If you continue to worry more in your mind - e.g. "What if I blush in front of everyone?", "What if I go stuttering?" "Everyone will laugh at me", "No one will take me seriously anymore", "I'll get fired" etc. Based on this, we can say that such anxiety can be called anxiety or anxiety, because it is the feeling of anxiety that is the result of such concern. This type of worry drives us to worry more and the more we worry the less we do. I believe that this way of assessing whether the care is friendly or unfriendly can help you in your daily “care”.
However, if you decide to try, you will notice that with some concerns, no matter how hard you try to find a way to be friendly, you will not succeed. Why? Because some of the worries you may care about on a daily basis are not within your responsibility. For example. "Is the child eating something in kindergarten / school or is he hungry?" Is the responsibility of the child and the kindergarten staff. A possible action that can be taken with this care is to talk to your child why it is important to eat and why it is good to bring nutrients into our body multiple times a day, but it is still the responsibility of the child to listen to you. . Therefore, while you are at work and your child in kindergarten, this concern is a hostile concern and you will not solve it until you get home where it is then your responsibility to feed the child. When you encounter care that is not in your area of responsibility, the best thing you can do for yourself is to decide NOT TO CARE.
caring#our best friend# worst enemy
Author: Martina Hedji, master psychologist, systemic-family counselor