"Loneliness doesn't have to be a negative state and people can learn to enjoy it," says psychologist Irena Werner. These days, we eagerly look forward to spending our free days with family and friends for a hearty meal, at home or on the road, in a comfortable company. However, more and more people perceive holidays as a real nightmare as they face their greatest fears - they will be completely alone, sad because they are forgotten by others, older by another year. - Being alone, without friends, or in advanced age does not mean that you should automatically be depressed and sad. The thing is, actually our beliefs are directly responsible for our unhealthy feelings and behaviors. Our mood depends on our thoughts. How we feel is not influenced by specific events, but by our beliefs about those events or the interpretations of those events.
She points out that there are people who think that loneliness is something terrible and that they should not be alone at any cost. - People have unrealistic beliefs such as: "I must not be alone during the holidays because it tells how much of a loser I am." she adds that instead of spending time grieving with herself, she can simply say to herself, "I'll be alone during the holidays, which I am lucky enough to finally be able to read any book." Also, Irena advises engaging in some hobby or any activity that makes us feel comfortable. - It would be best if a person plans daily activities as this will allow them to feel satisfied and comfortable. When I say that I plan, I mean to make a schedule, what and when to do it - going for a walk, watching a movie, listening to music, visiting people who feel good because, “a daily routine is what differentiates champions from those who never do anything try '' - says Irena, adding: - If we are convinced that we are not good enough or worthless, how can we strive for what is important to us at all. Likewise, the choices we make when we are depressed will keep us in a state of resentment.
Author: IRENA WERNER, Psychologist & Psychotherapist
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