The problem of delaying commitments can burden you with varying intensity. However, it is clear that most of us know what is meant by the tendency to leave what we should do today - for tomorrow. Such behavior in psychology is known as procrastination and should not be confused with laziness in which there is no awareness of the existence of a task, goal, or problem. In procrastination, there is an awareness of the need to take certain actions. Since the activity in question is most often perceived as annoying, such a person postpones it, resulting in sabotage of problem solving. By postponing the action required, the problem is not resolved, and obligations are accumulated. All areas of life can be covered by this phenomenon. We defer commitments at home, at work or college, commitments that relate to medical control or practicing healthy lifestyles. Research shows that 24 percent of people suffer from chronic procrastination.
The most common causes are: lack of self-control, perfectionism, fear of failure, fear of criticism, self-doubt, inability to make the correct time needed to complete a task, passive aggression, rebelliousness, feeling that life is too short for trivial obligations.
Modern lifestyles have led to an increase in distracting activities and an increase in the problem of procrastination. Television and Turkish or Spanish series, computer, internet, various gadgets ... greatly provoke a lack of self-control and procrastination. Those who are experienced in procrastination know that enthusiasm for a new activity is actually a relief that encourages delaying unpleasant jobs. The ability to do multiple jobs at the same time - multitasking, can be a useful skill, but it is also often a form of covert procrastination. Starting tomorrow or Monday may be the subject of a joke, but fundamentally these are the ways in which I leave my loft and keep our spirits in spite of unfinished commitments. The constant delay of the inevitable is complicated by feelings of guilt, increased anxiety, self-blame, and depression over the delay. These feelings reinforce the unpleasantness created by delay and reinforce avoidant behavior.
WRONG WAYS TO HELP YOURSELF
If you try to motivate yourself by saying something like this: I have to do it, If I don't do it, the consequences will be dire, For this job I need a special mood or inspiration, and in doing so you imagine the activity and the annoyance that it produces , it is quite certain that you will sabotage yourself with the wrong ways of motivation. Motivation through rigid demands, fear of consequences or the inconvenience of performing activities, increases resistance and emotional blockages, and thus complicates rather than solves the problem of procrastination.
HOW TO PREVENT DELAY
The problem with giving straightforward advice to people who procrastinate on solving a problem is that it is often in vain. A procrastinator is very aware of his behavior, often having a considerable number of possible techniques to overcome problems, but delaying their practice. But still, it's good to know: - Know the motives and reasons behind the procrastination. - Meet and accept yourself as a complex being. This involves dealing with our own shortcomings and imperfections, but also having a realistic view of our own strengths and potentials. - Develop a philosophy of rational, controlled hedonism that, for the sake of long-term well-being and satisfaction, advocates short-term acceptance of pain, suffering and discomfort. Remember the situations that made you happy just because you put a lot of effort and sacrifice into their realization. Everything worth really has a price. - Work on changing your habits at the same time, trying to keep your expectations low. Start with small demands and modest goals, try to manage yourself by making decisions and rewards for the goals you have achieved. - Whatever you do, let it be for a few minutes, your brain will not resist without striving to finish it. - Develop effective motivation. Make a plan keeping in mind that you plan to perform unpleasant and then enjoyable activities first. Also, first address urgent, routine activities and then just as important but not urgent obligations. - Take responsibility for your own time and personal life. It gives you the freedom to change what you don't like by developing yourself as a person.
Author: Liz Groove, psychologist and counselor
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